Cope with Emotional Pain (with an ice cube)

In the midst of overpowering emotions, thoughts, or panic attacks, one tends to want to do something-- anything immediately to make whatever it to just go away or stop. We want to feel better; do whatever it takes to feel better, right?

Whether it's exploding on a loved one, road rage, or succumbing to yet one last drink, more often than not, such impulsive actions do not help us in the long run. In the short-term, it feels good; it works.... at least temporarily. Later comes the dreaded, "Oh shit, I can't believe I did that!" realization, and you end up feeling worse than you did.

So, the next time you feel like you're going to lose it--succumb to the impulse; I want you to try something.

Go grab an ice cube to help you get some relief.

Yep, it's that simple. Go grab an ice cube-

Hold it in your hand and simply notice and observe the sensations you are experiencing. Keep that bad boy in your hand as long as you can tolerate it.

Most people find that doing this helps them put time and space between experiencing their initial, intense emotions/thoughts and their automatic or impulsive reactions.

How does this help?

Holding an ice cube provides an intense sensation and distraction that will pull your attention away from the intensity of whatever was distressing you. The awesome thing about this strategy is that just about everyone has access to ice cubes, they won't cost you anything, and (the best part), won't regret holding an ice cube.

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